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From: Ernest Wolf
Date: 13 Aug 1997
Time: 00:13:44
Essentialy I am in harmony with Eva Fisher-Bloom. Indeed, a classic posture of detached objectivity is experienced by many patient's as uncaring or rejecting. The therapist must not be neutral but must be experienced by the patient as accepting, as understanding though not necessarily as approving. "Being there" essentialy to understand, explain and accept allows the inevitable disruptions to be experienced as deviations from this idealized "being there" with an opportunity to restore the the disrupted relationship via a mutual, reciprocal and engaged examination of the factors that led to the disruptions. Since the inborn drive to organize is still active it aims to reorganize the disorganized self fragments into a new cohesion which is now adapted to the present situation with the therapist. Probably a healthier adaptation than the old one that emerged from adapting to the milieu created by parents and others in earlier years.