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From: Shaindy
Date: 1/2/2002
Ken, I came upon your message today 21/2/02 and so I am reading your past andwonder how you've evolved from this. I would have said then that it would change. It all happens for a reason. The harder the blow the larger the gift coming your way. Two nights ago I met a young couple waiting at a bus just asked if bus were late. And then he burst out how much he loved this girl, she was his life. whatever made me ask penetrating questions of how long did they know eachother (2 months) and I said that it was just the honeymoon stage, we all change and that it was important to grow together but even this doesn't insure it will last. I think one or the other biting at the bit cannot be restrained but has to be given their space after talking asking etc. And then the awful pain because it is you after all that's part of her that she'll be leaving with. But the first love is always the hardest. I believe Love is a juggling act. Working together supporting each other all of that and it still may break apart. It seems from what I've experienced heard and read you must keep a part of yourself above all desire and reserve it spiritually. Take the pain and know you will grow from it and there will be pains (growing pains) all along. Keep a journal and a year from now see how the pain transformed itself and you. Interesting journey, discoveries. Life at each age presents arriving. But the wise know we are always traveling and always aware and enlarging circle of understanding which includes accepting the periods of loneliness. It too shall pass I guarantee you, money back guarantee you. Read wise books. Insight can be a wonderful balm.